self improvement is the only way to a better life
but it’s very difficult to do
as with all things there is no forcing yourself to change
it’s a five step dance
- awareness of the thought or action
notice what you’re thinking about
notice your thoughts often
your thoughts run in patterns
the same is true for your actions
to change you need motivation
the most powerful motivation is pain
why do you want to change?
go back in time and live through the moment again
live it deeply and feel it
how many years have you had this pain?
how many more years do want to keep it?
imagine yourself ten years in the future
put yourself there
do you still want to have this pain?
when you feel suffering
you have motivation
- ask positive questions
learning is also unlearning
you must discard old patterns of thought
and learn new ones
a simple way to change a thought pattern is to ask questions
(the first step was awareness of the thought pattern)
which way do I want to be?
which thoughts do I wish to have?
what do I want to learn?
what is interesting to me?
who is a good role model?
who inspires me?
how does that person speak and behave?
if I could have a conversation with anyone who would it be?
what would that conversation sound like?
as you contemplate the answers to these questions
you have changed the pattern of thought in your mind
practice open mind
imagine every possibility
don’t pass judgment against your answers
you’re looking for your truths
not the ones you were told to have
ask positive questions and let your mind open
flexibility is in every step
4. when you learn a lesson
make a change to your thoughts and actions
all self improvement happens within
if no change happens to your thoughts and actions
no improvement has been made to your life
for example: if you get a promotion at work
it feels like your life has improved
but on the inside you’re still the same
you still have the same wounds
you still have the same thoughts and patterns
if no change is made within
no lesson has been learned
even when you remember it well
If you change your appearance nothing is changed
tomorrow and tomorrow
you still feel the pain
in karate you practice the same punch a thousand times
and you do it slowly
in your old patterns
you do the same thoughts and actions
a thousand times
now you’re going to do the new thought
a thousand times
each time you have the old thought
1 have awareness of it
2 feel the pain it causes
3 ask yourself what you want to replace it with
4 make the change to your thoughts and actions
5 practice often
the reasons change takes a long time
is because you are trying to break a pattern or habit
and replace it
it happens everywhere
it happens to you
with or without conscious thought
when you take small steps
one at a time
its easier to hold on to a change
when the step is too big
its easy to fall back
the only way to take a big leap forward
and hold on to it
is to pass through the massive pain of a life altering moment
change is very difficult
what you fall
try again (practice)