Emotions – and the purpose of suffering
there are two sources of pain:
wounds
and unhealed wounds
wounds happen in a instant
therefore most of the pain within you
is held in unhealed wounds
when you touch a flame the pain isn’t caused by the flame
it’s caused by your nerves
it’s a message from your body – stop doing it
if your nerves didn’t give you the message called pain
you could hold your finger there until it disappeared
this reveals two things about pain:
1 – it’s not caused by the flame – you’re the source of it
2 – it’s a positive message from you to you – it tells you the way to be healthy and stay healthy
pains seems like a negative message for several reasons
through judgment blame and complaint
we tell each other that pain is a negative problem
and it hurts - pain feels negative so it’s easy to believe that the message is also negative
these thoughts cause distractions which prevent you from seeing the real message:
pain is helping you
when the flame burns you, do you ask the flame to stop being a flame?
no. you pull your finger from the flame: you change your own actions
emotion holds the same messages as your physical senses
it tells you how to be healthy
for example joy or misery tells you:
keep doing it
stop doing it
or find a better way to do it – change your thoughts and actions
emotion doesn’t tell you to change the world around you
it tells you to change yourself – to change your own thoughts and ways
if you fight against this
it’s because changing yourself is the most difficult thing to do
when you become wounded
maybe you want the world around you to change
but the leopard never changes it’s spots
when you ask others to change
you’re actually in a battle against yourself:
because your heart and spirit don’t expect others to change their nature
just as your body doesn’t expect the flame to change it’s nature
when your emotions give you pain
they’re asking you to learn the lesson
and make changes to your self (thoughts, choices, and actions)
the push from pain
is a message from you
to you
when you refuse to make the changes to yourself
you hold yourself to suffering
because you’re in a battle against inner truths
when you repeat the old pattern of thoughts
you keep the pain
the key to all your suffering is in your thoughts
your thoughts hold you there
or release you from it
worry is a good example of pain caused by thoughts:
you feel the pain of a negative event which hasn’t happened
and might not happen (you are the source of your pain)
emotion reveals the meaning of every experience
when you feel indifferent
it’s because the experience is meaningless to you
therefore each time you feel something (joy or pain)
the experience is meaningful
if you felt nothing what would you know of life?
if you felt nothing what would you know of yourself?
and that is the most important truth:
your emotions are teaching you lessons about yourself
four billion years of life is four billion years of wounds
and your body has learned some lessons
- how to make better choices
- how to heal
easy things become very difficult when you have a broken arm
and blame doesn’t heal you
when your arm is broken your body doesn’t stop to blame someone
it begins to heal immediately
after your arm is healed
the pain is gone
your nerves are the source of your pain
your emotions are the source of your pain
when you heal your old wounds
your pain goes away
when you avoid healing your heart and mind
you are giving the pain to yourself
because you have decided to keep the wounds
painful emotions are telling you that you need to make changes
to yourself
let your mind imitate the lesson your body teaches:
every part of life is more difficult when you heart and mind are wounded
blame doesn’t improve your life
because it distracts you from healing
learning lessons about yourself
making changes
and healing yourself
improves your life
so don’t look for blame
look for the way to heal yourself
so that you can be healthy again
suffering is motivation and a teacher
it always points in only one direction:
self improvement (self awareness)
when you listen to yourself
and change your thoughts and actions
your body stops giving you pain
every thought you have is a choice
you decide what you think about
the purpose of pain
is to teach you lessons about yourself
if you have endless pain
this means you don’t listen to inner truth
you don’t do what inner truth asks you to do
end your suffering
listen to yourself
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